How to shake off your Christmas stress

Remain calm. You'll make better decisions than those who are stressed

How to shake off your Christmas stressIt’s almost that time of year again – the shops are filling up, along with the roads, and people’s stress levels are increasing. Christmas is a time of tradition. Some people have huge family gatherings with relatives (lockdowns permitting) from all over the place; others prefer a quiet evening – fireplace, wine, blanket and time…

Taking the stress out of Christmas, preserving the joy

Christmas is about family and creating warm memories

Taking the stress out of Christmas, preserving the joyIt was a cold day – really cold. As I sat in a coffee shop with a cup of tea one Christmas season, preparing to answer a few emails during a break from Christmas shopping, I noticed four shivering teens – opting for fashion instead of warmth. They ordered hot chocolates, then headed to a…

How to deal with harsh criticism

Stop fixating on the most devastating critiques; focus instead on the ones that offer honest, objective and useful feedback

How to deal with harsh criticismIs it just me, or do others find themselves overly fixating on criticism about their performance? I wasn't sure I had a thick enough skin after the first reviews came in when I began speaking professionally (and I was in law enforcement at the time). I prepared, practised delivery and made every effort to ensure…

How to be your very best every day

Find your zone, connect to the world, tune into your purpose and then get specific

How to be your very best every dayI once had the fabulous opportunity to chat with a group of executive administrative assistants on their final day of a national conference. They had spent a few days exploring what it takes to create positive energy for themselves and their organizations. When I met with them, they were elated, excited and maybe even a…

The big payoff that comes from doing absolutely nothing

When we’re running from moment to moment, task to task, we lose perspective

The big payoff that comes from doing absolutely nothingAre we so afraid of spending time alone with our own thoughts that we find tasks to occupy every moment of our waking day? We must stop consuming our days in this unmitigated busyness. When we’re running from moment to moment, task to task, we lose perspective. Events and circumstances start to feel all-consuming. We…

Relax, everything is going to turn out just fine

Get what you want by stressing less about outcomes

Relax, everything is going to turn out just fineSome of the biggest conflicts we face are about the frustration we feel when we don’t follow through and achieve what we’ve set our minds on. This causes us to become prickly in our relationships and take our irritation out on others. When I first started working in law enforcement, there were all kinds of…

Focus on your goals to put them within reach

Get rid of the negative thoughts and distractions and focus on what's important to you

Focus on your goals to put them within reachThe news is filled with folks complaining. From politics to economics and everything in between, people are focused on what we don’t have rather than what we do. It’s such a deeply-rooted problem that it makes me wonder if our focus is the primary culprit for all the unhappiness we perceive. When we imagine ourselves…

Starting the new school year off right

The best way to help your child is by connecting with their teachers and treating them with respect

Starting the new school year off rightNow that school is back in and life is settling into its normal fall routine, it may be a good idea to think about the essential relationship you and your child have with those people responsible for your child’s education: teachers. As a parent, you want nothing but the best for your child. When it…

Is your enthusiasm undermining your message?

Overexuberance can lead to lost opportunities

Is your enthusiasm undermining your message?It’s no secret that we all have different styles when it comes to communicating. Some people are articulate communicators and others aren’t. Some people get right to the point while others tell a story first. Mix communication styles and add emotion and it’s likely that important elements will be missed entirely. Take this example: Justin…

How to keep meetings positive and focused on the outcome

Strategies you can use to avoid the swamp of unproductive meetings

How to keep meetings positive and focused on the outcomeDo your days feel like one unproductive meeting after another … and another? Have you noticed how often people get bogged down in the same issues you talked about the last time you got together? You ask yourself: “Why are we going over the same ground again and again?” Somewhere between the positive intentions that people start with and a…
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